![]() “I was very compartmentalized for a long time,” she says. Part of what she loves about the cleaning kink is how it’s helped her to break down gender binaries and to explore facets of herself in a more complex way than society prescribes. “I felt like I was lying, like I’d created this false role, and then I had to inhabit that and play up to it," she says. For a while, she even tried forcing herself to behave in a dominant way that didn’t feel natural. These bad responses held Stacy back from exploring her sexuality for a long time. And then they’ve really struggled with me wanting to be more submissive.” "Not just sexually, but in the relationship more broadly. “I’ve definitely had women who want me to be the dominant partner," she says. Stacy has had a hard time explaining her interest in being a sissy maid-as well as her more submissive sexual preferences, generally-to partners, many of whom have responded negatively. "I felt like I was lying, like I’d created this false role, and then I had to inhabit that and play up to it." I think I respect women more than I do men.” “I can only speak to my own experience, and I know I can’t atone for years of historical oppression, but in a way, it’s a small act of penance-balancing the scales in my own small way," she says. One could argue that by identifying as female in their roles as maids, Stacy and Steffie are inadvertently contributing to this outdated stereotype of the housewife-but Stacy doesn't see it that way. ![]() Though I do think that attitude is changing, slowly.” “I was taught growing up that men are men and women are women, and that their place is in the home. “I definitely grew up in a very nuclear setting,” Steffie says. Historically, women have been expected to stay at home and clean, cook, and generally serve others. Society's binary concept of gender often dictates our behavior: We’re told a man should work hard and exhaust himself with long hours to be the breadwinner, and that an appropriate release from this is something physical, such as working out. But it’s more than that: There’s a sense of a higher purpose.” “When Steffie and Stacy are cleaning, they have no worries and can just focus on the task at hand. “We live in a world where we have a lot to worry about,” she says. They also dress up in frilly clothes, corsets, high shoes, and make-up. Both identify as male in their day-to-day life, but use female names and pronouns when in their maid roles. They do everything for Mistress Damiana: taking out the trash vacuuming doing laundry cleaning the bathroom. Legendary L.A.-based pro domme Mistress Damiana Chi introduced us to two of her sissy maids, who go by Steffie and Stacy. Sometimes the videos are explicitly sexual-they might be rewarded for doing some particularly thorough dusting with a hand job or a prostate massage-but often, the thrill is in the act of service itself, in being an unseen helping hand. ![]() Often dressed up in French maid outfits, complete with fishnets and high heels, men do tasks such as vacuuming, dusting, and doing dishes. On Pornhub, there are hundreds of videos of sissy maids. Enthusiasts call themselves “sissy maids.” Kinks for cleaning and doing menial tasks for a dominant woman are a subset of the BDSM community. ![]() Perhaps unsurprisingly, this is a fairly reductive representation of a broad and complex kink. Wearing a gimp mask, tight leather shorts, and a little apron, Rolph does household chores for Tiff, who barks orders at him from across her apartment while she relaxes and reads a magazine. If you’ve seen the Netflix show Bonding, you might remember the character of Rolph: a largely silent hulking figure, who spends most of his time in the kitchen of dominatrix-in-training Tiff.
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